I’ve had a question burning a hole in my head for the better part of a year that I JUST could not figure out.
Could not Google it.
Could not answer it with AI.
I was watching a movie…who cares what movie…but it was another super hero movie…
Pick one…it doesn’t matter.
Every super hero movie, rom-com, adventure film…all have this FORMULA.
Somewhere during the end of the movie, there’s a MOMENT OF IMPENDING DOOM…
The damsel falling off the cliff.
The cars about to collide.
The bad guy about to complete his evil scheme.
All of a sudden the danger music comes in…it's very high tension; very exciting. In the back of your head, you KNOW you're watching a movie so you're like, ‘OK the hero is going to come save the day.’
And of course, just like any other good movie, they drag the scene out for as long as possible to get you to the point where you think the bad guy JUST MIGHT WIN (a creation of self-doubt) or the disaster just might happen. At this point the danger music is really blasting…and you're kind of leaning forward…and you've got a little bit of tension in your body.
And then…boom.
The hero catches the lady falling off the cliff.
…or stops the cars from crashing.
…or comes into the scene just as the bad guy is about to hit the button on his super evil secret weapon.
And as that happens you FEEL a physical emotional rush, or an emotional wave, (RELEASE) come over you.
A sort of relief that in the midst of all the danger…the hero came through and saved the day.
The part about all this that bothered me wasn't the scene at all.
It was the fact that I have seen this scene in different movies and TV shows and books and documentaries over and over and over.
And I started thinking if I ALREADY KNOW what's going to happen, why is my body reacting to it like it's the first time?
Why is my body acting somehow surprised or relieved that the good guy saved the day?
It's because you and I are already deeply programmed with victim consciousness mentality.
Child consciousness mentality.
The need for someone to save us from our own lives.
Save us from being victimized or hurt or taken advantage of.
SAVE ME.
LOVE ME.
COMFORT ME.
CARE FOR ME.
NEED ME.
WANT ME.
WORK FOR ME.
DO FOR ME.
THINK FOR ME.
If you’ve seen on and off relationships from the outside in, or have been a participant, you understand this dynamic.
If you have a bi-polar or narcissistic mother or father, you have certainly been a part of this dynamic.
If you have had the power hungry boss who wants to control you but wants you to like him at the same time, you get the dynamic.
There is a villain.
There is a hero.
Smooshed in the middle is a victim of circumstance…living life as normal until the entropy of evil starts to take over…and that evil will continue to take over.
Nothing the victim can do about it except hope…and pray…and wish…for a hero.
So helpless and so righteous in that helplessness.
Ever try and tell a victim they’re not a victim?
Boy do they get pissed.
‘What do you meeeeean? You’d never be able to go through what I went through. You think you’re better than me? You don’t understaaaand!’
And look I'm not trying to say that people aren't bullies…
…or there aren't shit people out there.
…or that people are not going to try to turn you into a victim.
Some people suck and that’s life.
However…
You have been trained to be addicted to the victim label so much that when someone tries to say it’s not true…you FIGHT for the title.
You have been mentally enslaved, and every time you lose your shit over not being able to be a victim…
Every time you feel that satisfying RUSH from getting back with your EX…
Every time you feel the wave of euphoria when the hero saves the day on TV…
You have failed the Victim Consciousness Test.
This is why I can say that money doesn’t solve everything.
I have been around the rich and wealthy with their boats and cars and homes and STILL found they were miserable and always looking for a way to justify their own existence because they have all that shit and STILL can’t be happy.
They needed people to bully or a constant stream of approval because they hate themselves.
It’s a poison.
I had to look back on my younger days…which I don’t normally do…but I remembered when I would have barely any money in the bank and my car was fucked up and I worked a shit job…but I was confident and present as fuck.
I realized that, at some point in my 30s, the Victim Consciousness machine got me and ate me alive.
I hated people more.
I doubted myself more.
I felt sorry for myself more.
I complained more.
I did less.
I had gotten so mauled by the machine I could hardly recognize myself anymore.
Everything that made me great…I gave it all away because I was convinced I was supposed to be something else.
What do you miss about yourself?
All that being said…
I can’t MAKE you believe that you are or are not a victim…I can try…but the choice is ultimately yours.
And I think when we are more aware of all the programming, sub-conscious communication, and hypnosis in the world trying to change who we are at our core…we start to get back in control…
…of WHAT we are…and WHO we choose to be.
“If you have a bi-polar or narcissistic mother or father, you have certainly been a part of this dynamic.”
This is absolutely true! And I get why we often have this mentality but I don’t get why. For example, in my life with a narcissistic mother this was a daily interaction and mindset. But my question is why? Why so often, why so many of us? Why do we use it as a weapon or a shield or to excuse bad/entitled behavior? Is this something inherently human, or can we overcome it societally?