2025 Ultra Post for The Unmotivated, Stuck in Resistance, Riddled with Intrusive Thoughts average American.
That's your soul screaming.
Dear God,
If you have no purpose or direction in life, take notes however you please and take your time when reading through this post. There's no use in preparing to do this. There never is. Start reading now and only start taking notes when you feel it. That VERY moment. Get notes out. Start typing/writing/creating. The only goal is to make it through, nice and easy.
When we do things with relaxation in mind, our bodies can see what is in front of us much more easily. This allows us to execute tasks with accuracy. When you are accurate, you don't need to worry so much about speed because there are no mistakes to go back to. You will become more accurate over time and then speed will build upon that. So, relax.
When you are pretending to be someone else, you are not relaxed. You become what is known as the 'dancing clown' archetype. Others might be more familiar with the 'prostitute' archetype. Either way, you are not being or experiencing what you really are. You're acting in a way that people accept and therefore always in a state of tension because it takes work to be what people require you to be…not what you want to be. That's easy if you can let go. That's hard.
By the way…an ARCHETYPE is just a character. You can create them as you please. But you'll find with a little research there are archetypes that go way back. It's a character of origin…considered to be a type of person that has always been around. You might think of a 'Karen', who is a type of person that has existed in every time line. Someone who is panicky, and desperate for attention and power.
I think we all want to bend reality to our will. Can't happen unless you bend to yourself. That doesn't sound right but it's funny. Ya gotta bend to yourself first, lol.
You have to allow yourself to be who you really are in public. You don't have to force your personality on people like a religion or a demonstration. Believe what you believe. Like what you like. Out loud is fine.
This is the beginning of alchemy.
We know we are being programmed on some level. We've been taught a way of life. For some of us this is frustrating. We can feel the dissonance in play as we seek out opportunities to express more. Some of us find productive or fun avenues. Most of us find coping mechanisms to fill the void.
It's hard to call this 'the matrix' like there's a master group with a master plan. Sure, there's truth to it. But does it matter to you and your life? All you really need to do is pay attention to the systems and cultures in play around you and make decisions from there…where you actually live. You can't embrace responsibility properly unless you live and stay within the present moment. Awareness is the part of alchemy where you realize that the role of your brain is to simply be a channel that is streaming an experience through you.
This is REAL.
You are WATCHING it.
The problems spinning in your head are not. They only take you away from the present moment. You have to look around in the room you are in right now. All of what you see in front of you is the result of someone else's experience. Think of the many points of awareness in the world. The person that made your phone. The one that made your shirt. The one that built your home.
Some people call this gratitude. Knowing how good you've got it always helps. But it's more than that. You are certainly welcome to feel grateful. But more so, it's important to BE HERE.
This seems SIMPLE. It is. It's not 'so simple’ that you will somehow miss it, or some kind of fake unexplainable phenomenon like that. It's just simple. You only need to stop thinking for a bit and you can do that by just really being in the present moment. How you get there is up to you. Some of us just get it. Some need meditation. Some need supplements. Some need a prescription.
I used to have this notion that HOW you got to the present moment actually mattered. But if all we need is the result, the 'how' doesn't matter. Some people battle their entire lives trying to drop intrusive thoughts, depression, or anxiety without pills out of some sense of guilt. Do what works and be safe. Life happens once.
Following Blind.
You are following because you are afraid to be rejected.
You are following because you have faith.
Which one are you?
It can be painful for some of us to only follow people because we lack a sense of self. We have never chosen or grown into an identity so we find ourselves bending to the influence of others. There is a lingering fear of rejection. There is no sense of direction or purpose. Our purpose becomes 'pleasing' others. This becomes the identity.
But to follow with faith is to simply be aware that you are exactly where you are right now. There is no higher truth.
Your thoughts, knowledge, and memories are there to give reference and feed back. But make no mistake, you are right fucking here. Step into the moment with power and confidence.
You don't need to take on some sort of 'contrarian' archetype or anything like that. You don't need to be the one who just disagrees to disagree. The point is that you are here. This is real. If you have a thought to say or something you want to do, you don't need the permission and acceptance of others to do it. It's okay to express and live. This is your only chance to do it. This is typically where I'd give you some stupid exercise about writing down the areas in your life where you think you are being a people pleaser. The fact is you already know. The more you are in the present moment the more you will automatically begin to interact with people as a fully expressed man or woman. You'll see the simplicity in that as well.
The Self-Destruct Mechanism
People call it 'shadow'. It's all of the things you're fucking up over and over and over again. I really mean over and over. Watch the patterns. The bad habits. Collectively, they are known as 'shadow'. These negative aspects of your life are often personified as 'shadow archetypes', which are common characters with common personality traits and behaviors.
I've met some of the so-called gurus. In a weird way, I am also in that group. But, truth be told, there is no guru without problems or a tough backstory. They all have personality traits you may not like. Some of them fuck up on occasion. They come and go.
The 'guru' is an archetype, as well. It moves in ‘spirit’ from person to person as we all collect more wisdom and life-changing experiences.
So the same person that is a guru today, may fall and become in search of their next upleveling tomorrow. Which is cool because I don't have Lamborghinis to take IG reels with.
I digress.
Your 'shadow' is wrecking you on a daily basis. (This is where it gets 'woo-woo', but it's all metaphorical.) You have archetypes that play out in your head and you follow without even noticing. You think it's a power outside of yourself but it's just not being in the moment and instead getting caught up in your own head. When you're in your head, you're often thinking of situations or scenarios that are upsetting or perceivably dire. It feels relentless. It's like you stepped into a cloud of thought. It's about the past or it's about the future, and neither exists.
So you must become aware of what is destroying you on a daily basis. Some backwards rationalization may be of use here. It won't be perfect, but it will be accurate. Quick thought audit. It's simple.
What do I really not like about myself or my life?
Taking responsibility, what am I supposed to be doing that will rip me out of this situation?
You see, as much as I like learning and information, when it comes to taking action, it's typically very dialed down to a few key activities or short-term projects. Dieting is not complex. We make it so. Same goes for working out, the job you work or the business you run, or the relationships you maintain. You keep all these things in motion by focusing on the elements that matter the most. Your 'shadow' is easily cleared when you learn to be present in the moment. Nothing else. Simple. You can slip back into your thoughts and then pop right back out into presence as soon as you notice.
But also, a touch into the ego you carry can be of great use.
Being confident with yourself and the world. Speaking of your progress and your success and being with it in the moment as a part of your experience is a healthy way to feed the ego. Just give yourself a little high five once and awhile. Hurts no one and it feels nice. It's also a subtle reprogramming of your subconscious.
Finally, on the self-sabotage note, the negative emotions you have are not meant to be suppressed. You won't always have the best way of expressing, but you should always be seeking it. The way you express your anger, sadness, or frustration are officially a part of your experience once you get into it. Sometimes, raw anger is justified. But even then, if you get to a point where you are much more still in your emotions and present with the moment, even your anger will come out as a better and more powerfully framed experience.
BE 'as if'.
This is a lot to read. But it's all simple. Take on these traits immediately. Archetypes are like t-shirts. Just change. You can work out everyday right now. Just put it on. Who cares? It's a behavior change and you choose the behavior. It's yours to have. That's why you're here anyway. You're here to have the present moment. The 'now'.
Resistance is there. That funny stuck feeling you get when you know you should do something, but you just won't start. So? Be with it. Experience it. Resistance is HERE in the NOW.
What are you doing HERE?
DO IT.
Do the work.
In contrast, don't do any work.
But be present with it.
Express your Archetype, honestly.
You know who you are. Not because these things are bestowed upon you. But because you chose to be the kind of archetype you value. If your brain is a channel streaming the present moment, it is also a channel streaming experiences back out into the world. Two way street.
Have you ever noticed that work titles and hierarchy are often used as a value crutch?
Maybe you're a CEO, and you believe that your title is of value everywhere you speak it. Some people forget that value is not printed on a business card. Value is expressed. This can only be done if you are in the present moment. Every key stroke I intently place toward writing this very blog post is expressed value.
It feels good.
Expression can ONLY exist in the present moment. Past expression exists no more and the future, unknown. This is why we touched on faith. You have to believe that what you want to express in the moment is worthy of expression purely because you exist in this moment. This moment is literally the only thing you actually have. You just want to be sure you are present and unafraid to hear/see/connect with the world.
You can't connect if you don't accept both yourself and the world.
Frame it.
Mental frameworks don't get talked about enough. You want to frame situations for the better. Always. As a habit. (This is a massive trait in narcissists and it can be used for good.) You don't have to be delusional and pretend it's a good thing if your house burns down. But let's be honest. If you could somehow convince yourself it was a good thing, or that it's not a huge deal, you'd be in really good control of your emotions. Being in emotional control does so much for you, it's insane. Even when you take a loss, you become good at seeing the opportunity to become a better you. You like the idea of a better you, so you get good at turning loss into the next adventure and bringing yourself right back into the present moment, where you belong.
I would advise that you read books on dating or take courses on social dynamics to get better at this. You don't need to be a love guru. But taking lessons from these people teaches you more about the present moment and being alive within it.
Presence is also 'vulnerability', which seems to be a huge buzz word lately. Accepting where you are so much that you are not even thinking about it. You're just here. This is real. Let the chips fall where they may.
Being able to frame things in a direction that motivates you is magic. Rather, it's transformative. There are people out there that see challenges and jump right in.
Some of those people are jumping in because they are in the present moment and dive into life. Some of them jump in because they are anxious and afraid of a past or future situation. The latter has a much harder time finding success because there are often mistakes made along the way.
When you are not present, you are not streaming the correct information within the moment. This will affect your ability to decide and respond.
However you need to frame things to your advantage is fine. Be creative with it. Don't cling to any one frame if it's no longer useful. Contradicting frames are okay as well. Just be here no matter what.
Stay Sucka Free.
Some gurus try to get you to do some over-the-top shit sometimes.
Look. If you think it's crazy only because it's different but no one gets hurt…cool. Be hyper present in the activity. It's a unique experience you get to have and there may be great rewards for it.
But if it's something that will put you at risk physically or financially…just be in the moment with yourself as you say 'no'. Express that you value yourself in a way that you only seek to grow. Some will tell you that in order to win big, you need to take risks. Ironically, there's no risk in saying that. But there's a lot of risk in wildly throwing away resources that you could use for maintaining a better present moment.
It's fine to be suspicious of people. It's fine to not trust someone or a group. Just be careful you don't get lost in thinking about it. That you don't make things worse than they really are. There's no presence in being easy to be taken advantage of. There's no presence in ruminating in anxious thought. There's no presence in being constantly stubborn or contrarian. Look around. Be here.
Faith in yourself is being HERE.
I know I am really 'beating presence' into you with almost every sub-lesson here.
But NONE of these lessons will deliver if you are not ALWAYS HERE IN THE NOW AND PRESENT WITH THE TASK AT HAND. YOU ARE INTERACTING AND THINKING ABOUT WHAT IS HAPPENING RIGHT NOW AND IN FRONT OF YOU. THIS IS REAL.
I'm better than you.
You'll probably need a basic frame in the beginning. ('I'm better than these people.' or 'I'm awesome.') The frames are great for stroking the ego just enough to let you back into the present moment. The goal is to move from needing your ego to having inner strength and resilience. You just get good at bouncing back from negative experiences. Mostly because you create a positive one and you're back in action. But in the beginning, having a frame that gives you confidence is fine. Even if it's extreme.
Make one.
External validation may be something you crave on occasion. But you have to be careful to never allow things you own (or people you interact with) hold the key to your self-esteem. That is like being hypnotized into being someone else. This is the slippery slope back to the 'dancing clown'. It sucks.
So, if thinking that you are above other people helps for now, go for it. But remember, that is a thought keeping you out of the moment. This is real. Here. Now.
The more you are here…the more you accept the frame of the present moment…the more you see the NOW as a canvas to be painted with whatever meaning or archetype you'd like.
Have you thought of an archetype (character in real life) that you are now emulating in the present moment?
I'm worse than you.
You will fuck up. You are here because you have fucked up or things are ‘down’ right now. But what's the big fucking deal? THIS IS REAL. How are things literally right now within this moment? Look around. Are the things happening in this room RIGHT NOW as bad as the world you keep spinning in your head?
Thinking about the people you hate. The people that hurt or betrayed you. The people you don't like. The people you fear. The people you don't trust. The people that left you. The moments that no longer exist. Try and grab them. You can't. They are thought loops.
"Thoughts are not facts. Emotions are not directives." - Leila Hormozi
Thoughts CAN be facts. Emotions CAN be directives. But the point here is that you don't need to fucking react to every little idea and feeling you had because some asshole called them intuition. I have bad ideas. You have bad ideas. Be present and test, then upgrade. Be a good programmer. Understand the codes in life. It's not magical. It's work, play, rest, communication, creativity, and curation all at the same time. Best when balanced in the present moment.
When you are thinking of yourself as a 'fuck up' or a 'loser'...remember that you are thinking of an archetype.
Plain and simple. Your flaws and imperfections are not a sign of what your identity is. They are spaces for reprogramming. Room for improvement, as they say. Watching yourself become better is always an enjoyable experience.
Mister Roboto.
Tech is really launching us into the future. It's amazing. Like, holy fuck. But it also happens to be a consumer of the energies of men and women. It didn't start with these 'damn cellphones' as the boomers like to say. It's been this way since the television (tell-a-vision) was new tech and inside of every American household. The hypnosis was suddenly made available. Be entertained. Watch product commercials. Purchase. Repeat.
It's not so much a conspiracy theory as it is just everyday normal life. I used to really not like watching too much TV. I wanted to be out. I would go to night clubs and bars. I would dance. I'd shoot my shot with someone beautiful.
I know it's my age now. People get older and behavior changes.
It's an 'age' archetype if you really think about it. We have a way that we believe we are supposed to behave at a certain age. (This is mostly for the over 30's because this is when that type of thought begins to settle in. The idea of 'feeling old' begins to germinate. It's the idea of lost value and life ending.) But life is not ending. You are here. This is real.
Is it starting to click?
Give yourself to life.
It's what you are here for.
If you're going to use tech, use it with presence. Know you are watching something that is a created experience. Notice the build of your phone and the way that the rest of reality surrounds it…surrounds you. The more present you are, the better you become at using these tools anyway.
But if in the act of using technology you find yourself lost more in painful thought, fearful of something bad happening, or angry from past trauma, you're NOT HERE. You are the user of technology and you are never to be on the reactive end of it. An Instagram post is the past. A TikTok post is the past.
By the way, this is not to turn you into a mindless and emotionless piece of machinery. Your thoughts and emotions are here to stay. But you are experiencing those as well. Here. Now. Got it?
Money Trees.
Learn about money. Learn about credit. Learn about the value systems in your society. Learn about influence. Learn about sales. Learn about relationships. Learn to seduce. Learn to be powerful. Expand. Be a 'warrior' archetype. The warrior is on the hunt. And the warrior is not constantly chopping heads, like movies want you to believe. He is surviving. He is gathering resources. He is building. When he's not protecting from the enemies, he's protecting from the elements.
That was a little 'woo-woo'. I try to avoid it.
But do learn about money and credit. As a modern day warrior, it's your path. You may have a lot or a little money. These things come and go. But you are still the 'warrior' archetype. That frame keeps you strong, present, and loving. The 'loser' or 'failure' archetypes do nothing except keep you in your head, stuck.
This goes along with the lesson of not taking risks you can't afford. In other words…if you lost the bet…would it really suck? Don't take that bet. Be the 'warrior', not the 'gambler'. (See? Gambler! Just making them up.) But the characters help make sense of it.
Friend Zone.
The 'nice guy' and the 'white knight' are more modern day archetypes.
They are likable but not memorable. They are quietly desperate. They are also liars and manipulators. People who are stuck in thought are not authentic or honest. Only in the sense that they are being who they think you want them to be.
On the other end of the spectrum might be a 'bully' or a 'drama queen'. The outwardly aggressive version of the 'nice guy' who manipulates with fear and shame instead of fake niceness.
Being assertive and authentic are all you need. Those are both warrior traits. They are only available in the NOW. So all you need to do is…
All The Gods.
I fully support AI if it's well developed, organized, and uncensored. I love to use it to ask deeper questions about my simple curiosities. I asked between all societies and tribes world wide…how many gods and religions exist?
The number had to be estimated.
Religion: 10,000 - 15,000 worldwide
Gods: Tens of Thousands
(If you find a more accurate number, let me know)
We all do it. We all want to live. We all want to thrive.
We don't want to die. Maybe it will be real one day. Maybe it already is. We hope that if we make the right decision about what to believe before we die, we will be accepted into a group while we live, and move on with them to another holy plane of existence after we pass.
I don't care what you believe.
But, I believe that this is it. THIS IS IT. Yes, you can buy a ticket to heaven (possibly) by joining a religion. Now you just have to hope it's the right one. It doesn't hurt to do it anyway. But this also becomes your identity. That group. What they do. How they dress. How they speak. Be sure it's what you want.
But YOU ARE HERE.
I don't know what else to say that is literally any more true and real than that.
You don't need a pre-packaged belief system to be here. You don't need values and purpose programmed into you beyond having a good educational system and staying open to new ideas after that. Being a decent person. The basics. You don't need goals other than the ones you set out to achieve. You don't need to live in anxiety and you don't need to go on the attack.
I don't know about god.
When I say 'God', I mean the god that was programmed into me from the culture that brought me up. But once you realize that people all around do the god and religion thing in different ways, you start to wonder if god is not an entity who has constructed you and is waiting for you in another world. God might be a way of life...or another archetype. The work and creation that you do is god-like. We're not talking miracles. We're just talking about making something that wasn't there before. A house. A friend. A child. A painting.
I'm not trying to play word games, either. If the world is filled with gods, and we as humans are hoping there is a god in charge, but we only stick to our own version of god, it's easy to assume most are wrong. But when you look from the outside in, you begin to believe they may ALL be wrong. That somehow god was just a creation of the human psyche. Afraid of death and unable to explain it, God became the first person we ever needed to please. And across all religions that guy is never fucking pleased.
Subjectively, I surmise that god is a philosophy and a symbol of what we strive to be. Kind of the first self-help guru trying hard to introduce us to the present moment. A lot of us missed it. Instead we got obsessed with an all powerful entity that we must keep happy if we want his favor.
Follow what you will. Just remember that you have to choose your values and purpose. You can choose and re-choose. You can choose and un-choose. But you can't do anything stuck in your head.
The main lesson of 'Be here. Now. In this present moment.' has saturated the majority of this post on purpose.
In case you need a quick reference for the rest of the lessons in this blog post, you can go through the bullet-points below.
Balance Self-Improvement with Acceptance: Strive to become a better version of yourself but also accept your flaws and imperfections.
Be Mindful of Technology: Use technology as a tool, but don't become overly reliant on it or allow it to control your life.
Financial Responsibility: Be mindful of your finances and avoid making impulsive decisions.
Reject the 'Nice Guy' Persona: Be assertive and authentic in your relationships, not manipulative or passive-aggressive.
Create Your Own Meaning: Don't blindly accept pre-packaged belief systems. Forge your own values and purpose in life.
Embrace Responsibility: Take ownership of your life, your choices, and your outcomes. Avoid blaming external factors or falling into a victim mentality.
Challenge the Status Quo: Question conventional wisdom, societal norms, and systems that don't serve you. Think critically and forge your own path.
Confront Your Shadow: Acknowledge and integrate your dark side. Don't suppress negative emotions, but rather understand and learn from them.
Take Action: Don't just passively consume information.
Be Healthy: Your body and mind are one thing.
Be Authentic: Express yourself honestly and vulnerably.
Transform Adversity: View challenges as opportunities for growth and transformation.
Avoid Extremes: Be wary of gurus and ideologies that promise easy solutions or demand blind faith.
Cultivate Self-Reliance: Develop inner strength and resilience. Don't rely solely on external validation or material possessions for happiness.